The pursuit of happiness has been attempted by many who have found it to be elusive. As humans, we all want to be happy, right? So why have so many failed to reach it? I’m sure we would all agree that generally, we define happiness as experiencing emotions of well-being, contentment, satisfaction, even joy combined with a sense of life being meaningful and worthwhile. So why is happiness so elusive?
Is it really that complicated or is it our expectations? Are you waiting for someone or something external to yourself to make you happy; expecting a magic wand to be waved over your head to make all your troubles go away; maybe even waiting for aliens to beam you off the planet to a happier place.
These are all ways of escaping the main issue, which is to take responsibility for your own state of being. Make yourself happy. After all, if you can’t make yourself happy, how do you expect others to?
Observations and Introspection
When I look at life around me, I see many who are reacting to their environment. They are constantly being provoked, triggered, or pressured into a response. It seems to me that there is more to living life than being like tumble weeds blown about by the whim of the wind. There must be a better way of living life.
I found that spending as little as 10 to 15 minutes each day, sitting quietly and going inward, not only helped me understand myself better as a result I began to live a happier, healthier, and more balanced life. I stopped stressing, I stopped worrying about the things I couldn’t change; in any given moment I could stop, take a deep breath and focus on the now and how I was feeling. What I noticed was that during the course of my day, I was in reaction to the person standing in front of me or the current situation I was finding myself in. I noticed these things about myself without judgment and chose to persevere with quiet introspection time.
It was a journey to say the least. As time went on, I noticed the changes within me. I decided to stop reacting to my environment. I wanted my life to flow with ease and grace. I wanted to feel peace inside and to feel more confident within myself. I wanted to connect with my inner guidance and to align with my empowered and authentic self.
And it happened. Patience with myself paid off. I raised my vibration and let go of much of what no longer served me, I was not hanging onto past hurts, fears, or the need to control. I claimed my sovereignty!
Now, you may be hearing this word a lot these days, but what does it mean exactly?
Sovereignty is the state of being where you are free from external controlling influences, a state of detachment.
This doesn’t mean you stop feeling. On the contrary, you view the events going on around you, but you don’t react without first thinking about what is going on. You are in control of your emotions and you choose how you will respond. No one is pushing your buttons or pulling at your heartstrings.
Dealing with Manipulation and Provocation
From that centred and grounded place within me, that place of peace, I could see how certain people were manipulating situations in their favour or provoking a reaction from me. I had a choice, I could ask myself,
Emotions + Actions = Life Balance and Happiness
This gave me a tremendous sense of freedom, of knowing myself, and knowing that I don’t have to fit the labels others put on me. I have my own set of unique gifts; I don’t need to feel awkward about them being different from everyone else and I can confidently shine in the world. But there is a flip side to this. It also means that I am taking responsibility for how I think, speak, and act. I am responsible for what I create.
If You Can’t Change It, Don’t Worry About It
When we stop blaming other people and circumstances for where we are, we become better versions of ourselves. We are all capable of controlling our emotions and actions. You can start by focusing on those things that you can control or decide on right now. If you can’t change it, then there is no point in worrying about it.
My journey took me to a deeper more meaningful place of existence; a life of balance and happiness, where I connected with my authentic self; where I could share my divine gifts with humanity and the planet and just relax into being a happier version of me.
Live in your sovereignty and find your happiness!